I guess I don't see much corollary between a commitment to a particular technological platform (e.g., I've never understood the Apple-fanboy thing: "great, you really like your Mac... uh, why does that require you make rude noises about my nonMac?!") and commitment to a group which is comprised of friends and friends-waiting-to-be-known. But clearly we are different, the way we internalize and process such things; I also struggled over leaving the Council of Stewards (after my first nearly-10-year run) but I wouldn't have compared it to a romantic breakup. So I'm sorry to disappoint you by not seeing LJ as comparable in essence, except for the number of participants - but I suspect that's where I'm more sensitive, seeing many essential differences between the two platforms, most of which you don't see (not having learned the other platform; I don't know anyway around that one).